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18. How to Hold Space for People

Hi friends! This episode is in response to a question I received on Instagram and it’s all about the art of holding space—creating a safe, non-judgmental environment where others feel truly heard and understood. It’s not about being the hero, but about being present for someone else.

HIGHLIGHTS:

- The Art of Listening: We’ll explore how to listen fully without trying to fix or judge. Empathy and silence are key tools, and I’ll share ways to validate and ask clarifying questions.

- Managing Your Own Emotions: Learn how to stay grounded while holding space, set boundaries, and debrief afterward.

- Holding Space Without Judgment: We discuss how to avoid bias, and the difference between empathy (connection) and sympathy (distance).

- Compassion vs. Codependency: We explore the fine line between supporting someone and taking on their emotional burden.

- Holding Space for Yourself: Don’t forget to care for your own emotional health after holding space for someone else.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you’re interested in joining Thrive, join the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive

 

17. How to Talk to Your Kids About Emotions

DID YOU KNOW that the emotions research shows that the average adult human only has access to three emotion words: happy, sad, mad. That's it. I don't know about you, but my human experience encompasses so much more than just being happy, sad, or mad. 

 

So on this week, on THE OWN IT PODCAST, I'm sharing a recording where I was a guest on my friend, Hannah Hughes', podcast: The By Words Show. We had SUCH a good conversation and she asked me really thought-provoking questions about how to talk to your kids (especially your littles) about EMOTIONS:

 

- What do you think moms need to know when it comes to talking to their kids about EMOTIONS?

- What are some of the struggles or misconceptions you’ve seen moms face when approaching this topic with their kids?

- What strategies can parents use to teach children how to express and manage their emotions in healthy ways? Are there specific activities or tools you recommend?

- How can we as moms create a safe and supportive environment at home where our kids feel comfortable expressing their emotions?

 

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you’re interested in joining Thrive, join the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive and using the code THRIVETODAY to get your first month FREE!

16. From Surviving to Thriving -- my story

In this episode, I share my journey from living in survival mode to building a thriving life. For years, I was stuck in a cycle of burnout, juggling multiple jobs, school, and personal challenges, all while neglecting my mental, physical, and spiritual health. In this episode, I share my personal experience of pushing myself to a breaking point — working late nights, relying on caffeine and other stimulants, and eventually facing the inevitable crash.

HIGHLIGHTS:

What is Survival Mode: A state where you're constantly focused on getting through the moment, often at the expense of your long-term well-being. This mode is triggered by prolonged stress or trauma.

Signs of Survival Mode: These include constant stress, difficulty concentrating, exhaustion, emotional numbness, reactive behavior, short-term thinking, hypervigilance, avoidance of challenges, poor self-care, and feeling stuck.

Practical Steps to Thrive: Moving out of survival mode requires developing self-awareness, building emotional resilience, recovering from burnout, finding purpose, designing a life you love, and recognizing the importance of community and connection.

Thriving is a lifelong journey. It's about showing up, owning your life, and making intentional choices every day. If you want to join a community of like-minded, like-hearted community of women who want to get out of survival mode and thrive in their lives, join the Thrive Collective and learn how to build a life they love. Use code  THRIVETODAY at checkout for your first month free!

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

15. A Window Into My Heart: Dreams Fulfilled

Friends, this podcast episode is venturing off the notes I normally follow when I record a podcast and together, we are going to journey into some ponderings in my heart this season and some things I'm chewing on. 

As I transition into a different season, my kids are growing up and God is doing a new thing in my heart that feels unclear and vulnerable. God is the God of growth and if we're not transitioning in life, we're not growing. 

I've learned a lot in my journey of motherhood -- it's the season where I learned how to dream and where I watched God fulfill so many dreams in my heart that I never thought would happen. But because of these years, I'm in a space where I'm dreaming new dreams and it's SO VULNERABLE.

I hope this episode encourages you to stay on the course of your dreams in this season. You're exactly where you're supposed to me. Wait and watch -- He will come through for your dreams. I promise. 

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

14. Build a Healthy Ecosystem in Your Life

In this episode, I reflect on Proverbs 4:23, emphasizing the importance of guarding our innermost being, as it influences every aspect of our lives—our thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and actions. What’s happening inside of us will inevitably show up in how we live and walk out our lives.

HIGHLIGHTS:

- Knowledge vs. Understanding: I explore the difference between knowledge—knowing God’s truths—and understanding—applying those truths in meaningful ways. Knowledge alone isn’t enough; we must also cultivate understanding to break free from destructive cycles and patterns.
  
- Breaking Strongholds: Many of us need to tear down strongholds and habits that keep us stuck. I discuss how Scripture guides us in recognizing and interrupting these patterns through intentional action.
  
- Healthy Ecosystems: I challenge you to think about your personal ecosystem—what does your “bubble of life” look like? Just like in nature, everything in our ecosystem is interconnected. I discuss how our body, soul, and spirit need to be nurtured to thrive.

- The Body: How are you caring for your physical health? Consider your diet, exercise, sleep, and the impact of stress or addictions on your well-being.

- The Soul: Reflect on your thoughts, emotions, and choices. Are there unresolved pains or unhealthy cycles keeping you stuck? Inner healing, forgiveness, and emotional regulation are crucial for a healthy soul.

- The Spirit: Your spirit is your life force, and it needs to be strengthened by God. Are you staying connected to Him through prayer, Scripture, and worship?

Scriptures Referenced:
- Proverbs 4:23
- Matthew 13:5-6, 20-21
- 1 Corinthians 3:5-7
- 2 Corinthians 10:4-5
- 1 Corinthians 5:6

I want to encourage you to be mindful of who and what you allow into your life. Small, daily choices matter—don’t compromise. Let’s commit to creating and nurturing a healthy ecosystem where we can truly thrive in every area of our lives.

13. Ask Me Anything -- Thrive Collective Q+A

This is a pre-recorded Q+A from my private community, Thrive Collective. Thrive is my community and heart education membership exclusively designed for women who are living in survival mode and want to thrive in every season of their life.

I put out a thread in our private Facebook group that said "Ask me anything," and these are some of the questions I'm answering:

How do I create healthy attachments with my kids?

How do I not pass on unhealthy, generational things to my kids?

How do you feel about medication for depression/anxiety?

How do I move truth and belief from my head to my heart?

…and more!

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

12. Thrive Retreat -- a peek inside!

I'm so excited to share all about our recent Thrive Retreat, which took place from August 1st to 3rd. This was our very first in-person retreat, and it was so incredible that I just want to give you a sneak peek into the weekend!

From the moment we gathered, we instantly connected hearts and we spent the weekend together, not just as participants, but as a family united in our pursuit of freedom and breakthrough. It was truly special to finally meet face-to-face after connecting online for so long.

Throughout the retreat, we dove deep into our inner healing journeys, supported each other through powerful speakers and sessions, and experienced significant personal breakthroughs. The connections we made were profound, as we shared our stories, our struggles, and our victories.

In this episode, I'll be sharing some of the highlights from the retreat, the incredible transformations we witnessed, and how this experience has reignited our passion for living freely and fully. Whether you were there with us or you're hearing about it for the first time, I hope this episode inspires you to seek your own moments of breakthrough and connection and perhaps, join our community and come to our next retreat!

So, grab a cup of your favorite beverage, settle in, and let's dive into the magic of the Thrive Retreat!

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you’re interested in joining Thrive, join the waitlist so you can stay in the know for when the doors open. DOORS OPEN SEPTEMBER 7!

11. Practical Tools + Steps for Healing Pt. III

In part III of my series on pain and how we heal from our past, I delve into practical tools and steps for healing emotional pain and cultivating a healthier life. I break down 8 different keys to healing our pain and provide practical and actionable steps for each.

 

HIGHLIGHTS

• Self-Awareness

We must first become aware of what is going on inside of us that isn’t producing the results we want in our lives.

• Telling the Truth

Self-awareness is meaningless if we aren’t willing to be honest about our past, present, and future.

• Acceptance

Accepting who we are in this moment, with all our shortcomings, is crucial for making powerful choices towards healing and growth.

• Becoming a Change Agent

We can drive change in my life by identifying areas for improvement and developing strategies to address them.

• Owning and Validating Past Experiences

By validating our past experiences, we heal and gain perspective, allowing us to let go of old beliefs and create new ones.

• Reclaiming Rejected Parts of Yourself

Part of healing is reclaiming the parts of ourselves that we rejected due to fear, integrating them back into who we are.

• Forgiving Yourself and Others

Forgiveness involves releasing the hold others have on us due to their actions, allowing us to move forward and heal.

 

I hope you’ve enjoyed this series on pain and healing! 

 

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

10. How do we Heal our Pain? Pt. II

In this episode, I explore what healing truly means and the sources of our pain. The goal is to achieve an abundant life as mentioned in John 10:10. Healing involves confronting and overcoming the pain from trials we face, as noted in John 16:33, and not letting it dictate our lives.

 

HIGHLIGHTS:

Effects of Unhealed Pain:

- Feelings: Disappointment, shame, guilt, anxiety, depression, hopelessness, powerlessness.

- Beliefs: "I'm not good enough," "It'll always be this way," "It doesn't matter how hard I try."

- Behaviors: Addictions, people-pleasing, codependency, escaping behaviors, disconnection.

 

How Do We Process Past Pain?:

- Triggers: Indicate unhealed pain and help point us to areas of our life where we don’t yet have freedom.

- Childhood Pain: Unresolved childhood experiences can manifest as trust issues, low self-esteem, and codependency. Healing requires processing wounds, setting boundaries, and creating values.

- Past Relationships: Toxic relationships impact self-worth and trust. Healing from these relationships involves reparenting and creating new experiences in relationships. 

- Negative Self-Perception: Internalized negative beliefs from childhood affect our adult decisions. We can heal through externalizing our experiences and cognitively restructuring our beliefs and narratives.

- Stress and Burnout: Chronic survival mode leads to burnout and we have to learn the symptoms of stress and burnout and align our actions with our values

 

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

9. What is Pain + How Do We Heal? Pt. I

Welcome to Part 1 of a series on inner healing. The goal of life in Christ is ABUNDANT LIFE — life and life abundantly (John 10:10). But life offers us pain and disappointment that can leave us feeling shame, anxiety, depression, overwhelm, etc. In this multi-part episode, I want to unpack and demystify pain and inner healing in a tangible, practical, and applicable way. 

HIGHLIGHTS:

What Are We Being Healed From? 

Life’s Trials: In this life, you will have trials of many kinds (John 16:33). People aren’t perfect, and pain happens, often unnoticed.

Facing Pain: Healing means facing the things in our lives that have caused pain and refusing to let the effects of pain dictate our life’s course.

Effects of Unhealed Pain:

• Feelings: Disappointment, shame, guilt, anxiety, depression, hopelessness, powerlessness.
• Beliefs: “I’m not good enough,” “It’ll always be this way,” “It doesn’t matter how hard I try.”
• Behaviors: Addictions, people-pleasing, codependency, escaping behaviors, dissociating, and disconnection from people.

Benefits of Healing: When we heal, we can spend our energy showing up to our life instead of just surviving in it.

What Are We Healing From?

1. Childhood Pain:

• Causes: Neglect, abuse, bullying, rejection, loneliness, emotional abandonment.
• Impact: Childhood experiences shape adult behaviors.
• Signs: Trust issues, emotional dysregulation, low self-esteem, codependency, people-pleasing, self-sabotage.

Healing helps us move from merely surviving to truly living. Remember, the goal is ABUNDANT LIFE. Stay tuned for Part 2, where I’ll dive deeper into more areas of our life where we can experience pain and practical and actionable healing practices and techniques.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.