the own it podcast

We've been in a season of transition for six months now — stepping out of what we'd known in ministry for over ten years and into the complete unknown. This week I'm walking through what transition seasons are actually for: the space between Egypt and the Promised Land, the three things the wilderness is designed to do in us, and why the real question in the middle isn't "why am I here," but "who is God forming me into here."

 

In this episode:

• Why transition is the space between what was and what isn't yet — and why God leads His people through the wilderness instead of straight to the promise

• The three purposes of transition: testing, teaching, and transforming

• Why manna wasn't given for survival — it was given for protection, and what that teaches about daily dependence

• The mindsets a season of transition is designed to strip away, and what it replaces them with

• Why entering the promise requires a new kind of faith, not less

• Three reflection questions to ask in your own season of transition

 

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

Coping is not failure. I want to be really clear about that. Coping is what your nervous system does when it's doing its job. But coping was never designed to be a permanent state — it was designed to be a bridge. And most of us have set up camp on the bridge. This week we're talking about the difference between coping and capacity. What emotional capacity actually is. How to tell which one you've been doing. And the practice I'm going to give you to start expanding your window of tolerance — gradually, safely, with the support that real change actually requires.

In this episode:

• Why coping is not the enemy (but it's not the destination either)
• What emotional capacity actually is
• Four questions to tell which one you've been doing
• Your practice for the week: the Pause and Name Practice

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

Nobody decides one day to become a smaller version of themselves. It happens gradually, in response to messages and experiences that accumulate over years. And then one day you realize you've been performing a version of your life rather than actually living it. This week I'm naming the cost of shrinking — relationally, vocationally, spiritually — and walking through the four things it takes to stop. Because the woman you're becoming is not a future version you have to earn. She is the version of you that emerges when you stop editing, stop managing, stop shrinking. And she is exactly who God made you to be.

In this episode:

• Where shrinking comes from
• The cost of staying small (relationally, vocationally, spiritually)
• Why shrinking is not the same as humility
• Four practices to start showing up as who you actually are

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

We've been told — explicitly or implicitly — that thriving is something that happens after the hard season. After the kids are older. After the finances stabilize. After the grief subsides. And so we keep deferring the life we actually want to be living. This week I'm offering you a different frame, anchored clinically and spiritually. Thriving is not the absence of difficulty. It's a way of being present in your life — with yourself, with God, with others — regardless of your circumstances. We're going to Jeremiah 17, we're going to your nervous system, and we're going to the question that matters most: what would it look like to thrive in the season you're actually in?

In this episode:

• What thriving actually is (and what it isn't)
• Jeremiah 17 and the tree planted by water
• Why giving up the performance of okayness is step one
• The question to carry into your week

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

I'm recording this episode pregnant with my fourth, sitting with this topic in a particularly personal way. I know what's coming. I've done it before. And I also know — from my own life and from hundreds of women I've worked with — that losing yourself in motherhood doesn't have to be the price of admission. You were not made to disappear into your calling. You were made to come alive in it. This week I'm getting honest about what losing yourself looks like, why it happens, and what it takes to stay rooted in who you are while you raise the people you love.

In this episode:

• What losing yourself in motherhood actually looks like
• Why this happens (and why it's not your fault)
• Why your inner life is not optional in this season
• How to stay rooted in who you are while you raise the people you love

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

Hypervigilance is a clinical term, but I want to make it human today. Because so many women are living in this state without knowing it has a name — and when you don't have a name for something, you can't address it. You just keep experiencing it and wondering what's wrong with you. This week we're naming it. We're talking about how it develops, what it looks like in everyday life, the spiritual dimension we don't talk about enough, and what real healing actually requires.

In this episode:

• What hypervigilance actually looks like in everyday life
• Why this is not your personality
• The spiritual dimension we don't talk about enough
• A three-step framework for real healing

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

There's a difference between regular tiredness and nervous system exhaustion — and most of the women I work with have been treating the wrong one. You can sleep eight hours and wake up depleted. You can take the vacation and still feel hollow. Because the exhaustion is coming from somewhere deeper than your schedule. This week we're talking about what happens when your nervous system has been running on high alert for so long it has forgotten how to come out of it — and what your body actually needs in order to rest.

In this episode:

• Regular tiredness vs. nervous system exhaustion
• Why sleep alone isn't restoring you
• Why women in particular are vulnerable to this
• What your nervous system actually needs to rest

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

In this episode, I wanted to share my birth story — because everyone lovessss a birth story, at least I sure do. I'm sharing her birth story, the season leading up to her arrival, my process around a surprise gender reveal on delivery day, and what I did differently this time to prepare mentally and emotionally for labor and delivery.

In this episode:
- The season leading up to her birth and what it taught me
- How I mentally and emotionally prepared for labor and delivery
- Her actual birth story — what unfolded and what I'm carrying with me

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:
Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more practical content on showing up to your life. Visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN — head to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

Somewhere along the way, we all started believing there's a formula. The right book. The right course. The right affirmation. We do the thing, feel hopeful for a minute, and then life gets hard again and the old patterns come roaring back. And we feel like we failed. This week I'm naming the truth out loud: lasting change takes time. Not weeks. Years. Because your nervous system wasn't shaped in a day, and it can't be rewired in one either. We're talking about why quick fixes fail, what real change actually requires, and what it looks like to stop chasing the formula and start doing the slow, deep work.

In this episode:

• Why insight alone never sticks
• The whole-ecosystem approach to lasting change
• Why we were never meant to heal alone
• What real change actually requires

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

You know the truth. You know what needs to change. So why can't you change?

If you've ever felt paralyzed even when you could clearly see the pattern you were stuck in — this episode is for you. I'm breaking down the real reasons smart, self-aware women stay stuck, and it has nothing to do with willpower, discipline, or how much you want it.

In this episode you'll discover:

• Why knowing the truth isn't enough to create lasting change — and what actually is
• How your nervous system does a hidden "cost-benefit analysis" that keeps you in familiar patterns, even painful ones
• The concept of "secondary gains" — what you might actually be getting out of staying stuck without even realizing it
• Why shame is one of the most powerful forces keeping you in old cycles
• What it means to feel truly safe enough to change — and why this work can't happen alone
• What actually shifts things (hint: it's not more information or trying harder)

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

If you’re interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!