the own it podcast

Your life is an ecosystem — and when one part is out of balance, everything else feels it too.

In this episode, I'm sharing one of the most powerful frameworks I use with the women I coach: the idea that your life functions like a living ecosystem. Your body, soul, spirit, and external world are all deeply interconnected — and real, lasting change can only happen when you address the whole system, not just one piece.

In this episode you'll discover:

• What your personal ecosystem looks like — and the four key layers that make it up
• Why trying to fix just one area while ignoring the others keeps you stuck
• Why you literally cannot heal in an environment that doesn't support healing
• Practical steps to create safety, alignment, and connection across all areas of your life
• What it looks like to build a thriving ecosystem from the inside out

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

If you’re interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

In this special bonus episode of The Own It Podcast, I'm opening the door to something I haven't talked about openly on the show yet — Thrive Collective.

There's no framework today. No five-step teaching. Just a real conversation about the thing this community was built to solve: the loneliness of doing the healing work alone.

In this episode:

• Why the healing journey can feel so lonely — and why it doesn't have to be
• The origin story behind Thrive Collective
• What actually happens inside the community — live teaching, Bloom Rooms, real connection
• Who Thrive is for (and who it's not for)
• Why community isn't a bonus to healing — it's part of how we were designed

Whether you join or not, this one is for you if you've been doing the work alone and quietly longing for a room of women on the same page.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. The doors of Thrive are OPEN — head to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

Have you ever felt like your pain "isn't bad enough" to deserve healing? Like because you didn't go through something catastrophic, you don't have a right to struggle?

In this episode, we're tackling that lie head-on. I'm breaking down what we're actually healing from — and it's not just trauma with a capital T. We're healing from the subtle, quiet wounds that shaped how we see ourselves, how we cope, how we relate to others, and how we move through the world.

If you've ever minimized your own pain or wondered if what you experienced "counts," this episode is for you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- Why you don't need "big" trauma to need healing

- What we're actually healing from: wounds to identity, attachment, and nervous system

- Why minimizing your pain keeps you stuck

- What it means to begin healing from the inside out

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!

Have you ever wondered why certain relationships feel so familiar — even when they're not healthy? Or why you keep bumping into the same emotional walls no matter how much inner work you do? In this episode, we're talking about attachment — how the way you learned to connect in your earliest relationships is still shaping how you show up today, and what it takes to move toward secure, thriving connection.

 

In this episode, we cover:

• What attachment styles are and where they come from

• How anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment show up in adult life

• Why understanding your attachment style is key to real transformation

• The connection between attachment wounds and emotional patterns

• How healing your attachment story opens the door to truly thriving

 

Ready to go deeper? THRIVE Collective is a monthly membership for women who are done surviving and ready to truly thrive. Weekly live sessions, a supportive community, and tools that create real change. Use code THRIVETODAY for your first month free at comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive

 

HOW TO CONNECT:

Instagram: @chantelleenelson

Website: comealivelifecoaching.com

Do you ever feel like you keep ending up in the same patterns — same stress responses, same relational dynamics, same emotional spirals — no matter how hard you try to change? In this episode, we're going deep on what cycles actually are, why willpower alone doesn't break them, and what real, lasting change requires. This is the episode that changes how you see your own healing journey.

 

In this episode, we cover:

• Why cycles aren't a sign of weakness — and what they're actually telling you

• The difference between behavior change and identity-level transformation

• What has to shift internally before lasting change becomes possible

• How your nervous system and belief systems keep patterns in place

• Practical steps to begin breaking cycles for good

 

Ready to go deeper? THRIVE Collective is a monthly membership for women who are done surviving and ready to truly thrive. Weekly live sessions, a supportive community, and tools that create real change. Use code THRIVETODAY for your first month free at comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive

 

HOW TO CONNECT:

Instagram: @chantelleenelson

Website: comealivelifecoaching.com

You might be working hard, doing all the right things — and still feeling stuck. The reason might surprise you: it's not your effort, it's your beliefs. In this episode, we're unpacking how your belief systems were formed, why they run the show more than you realize, and how shifting them is the key to real, lasting change.

 

In this episode, we cover:

• Where your core beliefs come from (and why they feel so true)

• How limiting beliefs quietly shape your decisions, relationships, and identity

• The difference between surface-level mindset work and deep belief transformation

• Why willpower alone won't override a deep belief

• Practical steps to identify and begin shifting the beliefs holding you back

 

Ready to go deeper? THRIVE Collective is a monthly membership where we do exactly this kind of work — with community, live coaching, and tools that actually work. Use code THRIVETODAY for your first month free at comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive

Your nervous system isn't just a biology topic — it's the foundation of everything: how you feel, how you heal, and how you thrive. In this episode, we're diving into what your nervous system actually does, why it holds the key to lasting transformation, and what it means to live life abundantly from the inside out.

 

In this episode, we cover:

• What your nervous system is and why it matters for your emotional health

• The difference between a regulated and dysregulated nervous system

• How trauma and stress get stored in the body — and what to do about it

• Why healing has to include your body, not just your mind

• Practical first steps to start regulating your nervous system today

 

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you’re interested in joining Thrive, join the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month FREE!

Jesus said it five times in eight verses: abide in me. Remain. Stay connected.

And yet — for most of us, staying connected is the first thing that goes when life gets hard.

We stop praying the way we used to. We stop sitting with the Word. We stop creating space to actually hear. And we tell ourselves we'll get back to it when things slow down.

But things don't slow down. And before we know it, we're functioning on empty — doing it all from our own reserves. And our own reserves were never designed to be enough.

So why is abiding so hard?

In this episode, I'm breaking down the three biggest obstacles that keep us disconnected — and why they're often things we don't even realize are getting in the way.

I'm also sharing what abiding actually looks like in practice. Because most of us were never taught. We were told to do it, but not how.

Spoiler: it's probably less complicated than you think.

And if you've drifted? If it's been a while? There's something in this episode for you too.

Resources:

• Free audio teaching: "Why You're Still in Survival Mode — And What It Actually Takes to Get Out" 
• Join Thrive Collective for weekly community work. DOORS ARE OPEN. Use code THRIVETODAY for your first month free! See you inside!

Have you ever felt like you're stuck in a loop? You do the work, you make the changes, you put in the effort — and somehow you find yourself right back where you started.

Same patterns. Same stuck points. That familiar feeling of being trapped in a cycle you thought you'd broken.

If that's familiar, this episode is for you.

The Truth About Why This Happens:

It's probably not what you think. It's not because you're not trying hard enough, or because something is fundamentally wrong with you.

It's because you've been using the wrong tools.

Most of us try to change at the level of the mind. We think our way to change. We discipline ourselves. We get more information, read more books, commit harder.

But here's what nobody told you: the patterns you're trying to break don't actually live in your mind. They live somewhere deeper. They live in your nervous system, in your body, in neural pathways that were laid down a long time ago.

And you cannot think your way out of a problem that lives in your body.

What Actually Creates Real Change:

In this episode, I'm breaking down what actually works — and it's different than what most people are doing.

I'm also sharing the spiritual piece of this, because it's where everything comes together.

Resources:

• Free audio teaching: "Why You're Still in Survival Mode And What It Actually Takes to Get Out" 
• Join Thrive Collective -- the community + heart education membership exclusively designed for women who want to get out of survival mode and thrive in every season! Use code THRIVETODAY for your first month FREE

 

​​In this episode, we explore how your childhood quietly trained the way you show up in life today — not to blame your past, but to understand yourself with compassion. Long before you had language, your nervous system learned how to survive, adapting to your environment rather than to truth. Behaviors that once protected you — staying quiet, performing, self-soothing — may now be the very patterns keeping you stuck in adulthood.

We unpack survival responses that often look like personality traits (fight, flight, freeze, and fawn) and connect them to attachment patterns — anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure — shaping how you handle conflict, intimacy, and even your relationship with God. This conversation invites gentle reflection: what did you need as a child, what did you learn you had to do to feel safe or loved, and where do you still see those strategies playing out today?

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.