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[Archive] Episode 12: A Real + Honest Look Into Marriage + Connection Pt. I

[Archive] Episode 12: A Real + Honest Look Into Marriage + Connection Pt. I

This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The Complex. I loved the podcast and these episodes so much that I wanted to keep them up here for your listening pleasure!

 

Marriage is hard. It’s beautifully rewarding, but having a connected marriage doesn’t just happen. It takes a whole lot of choosing and intentionality between two people who are willing to lay down their lives for the other. We came into marriage with baggage of our own that we had to work through in order to build the marriage we have today. Join us for a two-part episode that we recorded when we spoke at an arts academy for creatives here in town. We get real, raw, and honest about marriage, pain, healing, triggers, and so much more!

[Archive] Episode 11: Is Marriage Really for Everyone?

[Archive] Episode 11: Is Marriage Really for Everyone?

This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The Complex. I loved the podcast and these episodes so much that I wanted to keep them up here for your listening pleasure!

 

Here is a candid conversation about the realities of marriage that not everyone talks about. If you’re single and you want to get married, this episode is for you! Chantelle and Donta talk honestly about the image of marriage - from church, media, how we were raised - that is often misleading and untrue. What does marriage really look like? How do you know if it’s for you? How do you become the person you want to be before you get married?

If you’re a woman who wants to get married but feel like there are personal blocks that are keeping you stuck in cycles of unhealthy relationships, Life Coaching might be for you! Head to www.comealivelifecoaching.com and schedule a FREE Discovery Call with Chantelle!

[Archive] Episode 10: Going After Personal Dreams in Marriage

[Archive] Episode 10: Going After Personal Dreams in Marriage 

This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The Complex. I loved the podcast and these episodes so much that I wanted to keep them up here for your listening pleasure!

 

In marriage, you often dream together, but there are also personal dreams you go after inside of marriage. Maybe it’s starting a business or going after a passion project. Maybe it’s taking a class or going back to school. In this episode, Chantelle and Donta process what it looks like to go after your individual needs in the context of marriage. What does it look like? How does it impact your relationship?

Donta also talks about the launch of his business Donta Nelson Creatives. If you’re someone who wants to discover your creative identity, but feel the blocks of fear, imposter syndrome, or using your creativity as an escape, Creative Life Coaching with Donta might be for you! Head to www.dontanelson.com/discoverycall to schedule a FREE Discover Call!

[Archive] Episode 9: We're PREGNANT + The Power of Vulnerability

[Archive] Episode 9: We're PREGNANT + The Power of Vulnerability 

This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The Complex. I loved the podcast and these episodes so much that I wanted to keep them up here for your listening pleasure!

 

Well, the title gives it away but YES! We’re pregnant with baby #3! In this week’s episode, Donta and Chantelle talk all about the first trimester, including Mcdonald's cravings, extreme exhaustion, and unpredictable mood swings. They also talk about vulnerability and how powerful it is when we show up in our relationships in such a way that it costs us when we’re open and honest and the beauty it brings to our connections with people.

[Archive] Episode 8: Stay Connected in Marriage While Raising Kids

[Archive] Episode 8: Stay Connected in Marriage While Raising Kids

This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The Complex. I loved the podcast and these episodes so much that I wanted to keep them up here for your listening pleasure!

 

Having kids has been one of the greatest blessings in our marriage! That being said, when you have kids, the time slots for connection and to process through stuck points and disagreements are a lot smaller. Your time, energy, and emotional capacity are not just reserved for your spouse anymore so you have to be intentional about making space for each other. Here’s an honest conversation about what it looks like for us to stay connected in our marriage with small kids.

[Archive] Episode 7: How Do You Actually Bring God Into Your Marriage?

[Archive] Episode 7: How Do You Actually Bring God Into Your Marriage?

This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The Complex. I loved the podcast and these episodes so much that I wanted to keep them up here for your listening pleasure!

 

If you were to have seen us a few weeks into our dating relationship, you would have cringed and rolled your eyes at our attempt to bring the God we both loved into our relationship. It was clunky and laughable. But it was our dream to have God be the center of everything we did in our dating relationship and into engagement and marriage. Today, we’re having an honest conversation about what it looks like to bring God into our marriage - it’s practical, humbling, insightful, and you won’t want to miss it.

[Archive] Episode 6: 3 Things we Wish we Knew Before Getting Married

[Archive] Episode 6: 3 Things we Wish we Knew Before Getting Married

This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The Complex. I loved the podcast and these episodes so much that I wanted to keep them up here for your listening pleasure!

 

When we got married back in 2016, we were head over heels for each other - Thank God we still are! But along the way, we experienced pain in our marriage that could've been prevented well before we said "I do." There's no shame in facing hard things in marriage. Life experiences can bring up dormant emotional blockage but we get to decide what we do with it! We hope that this podcast will inspire single people to face hard things before they meet the person of their dreams and also encourage current relationships that may be experiencing blindsiding moments in their marriage. No matter where you're at in your healing journey, there is enough hope available for us all! 

[Archive] Episode 5: Finding Inspiration in the Mundane

[Archive] Episode 5: Finding Inspiration in the Mundane

This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The Complex. I loved the podcast and these episodes so much that I wanted to keep them up here for your listening pleasure!

 

Finding inspiration in our life isn’t about luck or chance - it’s a choice to find things that inspire us in every season and circumstance. Sometimes inspiration comes upon us and other times, we have to go looking for it. Join us for a conversation on how we personally find inspiration in our everyday life and how we steward seasons where we don’t feel inspired.

[Archive] Episode 4: 3 Tips on Finding Your People!

[Archive] Episode 4: 3 Tips on Finding Your People!

This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The Complex. I loved the podcast and these episodes so much that I wanted to keep them up here for your listening pleasure!

 

Finding your people can be hard! We understand the complex reality of finding community and the time it takes to invest in something that you're not sure will work out in the long run. We know that vulnerability doesn't always come easy and that real people can be challenging. Lol! We hope, through hearing some of our real stories, that you'll be inspired to dive deep with people and begin to create thriving friendships wherever you are.

[Archive] Episode 3: How We Face TRIGGERS in Our Relationship

[Archive] Episode 3: How We Face TRIGGERS in Our Relationship

This is an episode from a podcast created by my husband, Donta, and I back in 2021 called Undoing The Complex. I loved the podcast and these episodes so much that I wanted to keep them up here for your listening pleasure!

 

What do you feel when you hear the word “trigger?” We've all had them. Life’s experiences, painful or traumatic moments, and everyday experiences can create the perfect storm for us to form triggers in our own lives, leading us to feel powerless and unsafe in everyday environments. But there is HOPE! There are ways to regain your power and take back what was stolen - your freedom. We are all called to live beautiful lives, and triggers are the “check engine” lights to show us where what needs our immediate attention. In this episode, we unpack and explore the realm of “emotional triggers” and how to face them when they come up.