the own it podcast

In this episode, I’m kicking off a brand-new series called It’s Time to Grow Up. Development—mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually—exists on a spectrum. Just like children hit benchmarks, we do too. And when we don’t, we feel the weight of that gap.

I talk about what it means to mature in every area of life:

• Emotionally: learning to regulate emotions, show empathy, and process pain.

• Mentally: developing memory, focus, decision-making, and problem-solving.

• Physically: understanding and caring for our bodies as they change.

• Spiritually: knowing who God is, who we are to Him, and growing in disciplines of faith.

The truth is, we can grow older without growing healthier or stronger in these areas—and that’s when life feels chaotic, out of control, or even painful. Paul reminds us in Hebrews 5 that some believers were still like babies needing milk, not ready for solid food. And in Ephesians 4, he calls us to “grow up in every way into Christ.”

This isn’t about perfection—it’s about maturity. We all have areas where God is inviting us deeper, and we don’t have to carry shame about that. Instead, we get to lean into growth.

In this series, I'm unpacking 20 indicators that describe an emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually healthy person!

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In this episode of The Own It Podcast, I share what it’s been like to lean into a slower winter season—being present with my kids, pulling back from external opportunities, and learning to embrace the tension of saying no in order to say yes to what matters most.

I talk about how God met me in spring and invited me into deeper rhythms of peace, how vulnerability has been both a challenge and a pillar in my life, and why I’m choosing to show up more authentically in this next season.

You’ll also hear what’s ahead for me personally, for this podcast, and for Thrive Collective as we step into our new theme: Deep Roots, Steady Growth. STAY TUNED!

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. 

** Sign up for my Overcoming Overwhelm workshop on Tuesday June 24! Join us live online from 11am-1pm or watch the replay. Register for the 2-hour online workshop here. Use code WORKSHOP10 for $10 off!

In this final episode before I take a summer break, I’m diving into a question so many of us wrestle with: How do you balance being a mom, a wife, and still pursue the dreams God has placed in your heart? It can feel impossible at times, but I’m sharing the rhythms, decisions, and spiritual anchors that have helped me navigate these roles with intention. From discerning seasons through the Word of God to practically mapping out our family calendar and making space for marriage, dreams, and parenting—I unpack how I’ve learned to honor the season I’m in without losing the fire for what’s ahead. This episode is a permission slip to live led by the Spirit, rooted in your values, and confident that with God, you can actually have everything your heart desires.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

• What it means to live led by the written and rhema Word of God
  
• How obedience to God’s timing shapes the way I build my family and business
• The rhythms we’ve created in our home for balance and alignment (yearly planning, seasonal resets, date nights)
• Why I no longer strive to “do it all” in every season
• How my dreams have evolved and stayed alive, even when I’m not actively chasing them
• The importance of inviting our kids into the journey and living under spiritual covering
• What it looks like for our family to move as one unit rather than juggling three separate silos

I hope you enjoy the episode and I hope you have an incredible rest of your summer and I’ll be back in the fall!

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

If your to-do list feels never-ending and motivation is hard to find, this episode is for you. Today, we’re diving into real-life, grace-filled strategies to help you stay motivated when you’re overwhelmed, tired, or just over it. You’ll learn how to shift your mindset, simplify your routines, and work with your energy instead of against it.

We talk about:

• The psychology behind motivation and how your upbringing, personality, and values shape it
  
  
• How to identify your why and use it as a compass for your daily choices
  
  
• The power of managing your energy, not just your time
  
  
• Anchoring small tasks to daily rhythms to make life feel lighter
  
  
• Creating an environment (or “ecosystem”) that helps you thrive
  
  
• What to do when you just don’t want to do the thing—cleaning, cooking, appointments, etc.
  
  
• How mindset and language shifts can unlock motivation in hard moments
  

Whether you’re driven by outcomes, rewards, or rhythms, you’ll walk away with fresh perspective, practical tips, and permission to do it differently this season. Remember: less is more, and you don’t have to do it all. Let’s figure out what actually works for you.

Sign up for my Overcoming Overwhelm workshop on Tuesday June 24! Join us live online from 11am-1pm or watch the replay. Register for the 2-hour online workshop here. Use code WORKSHOP10 for $10 off!

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

A Window Into My Heart: Sacred Seasons

This episode is a real window into the season I’ve been walking out the past few months. I’ve been a ghost on here because life has been so full, but I’m excited to share an update with you as we enter into the summer season. It’s my hope that you’ve feel inspired and encouraged in your walk with God as you say yes to Him in faith and obedience. 

I experienced stunning provision from the Lord a few months ago that shook my internal beliefs to my core and I was left with an invitation on how I was going to approach my life from that point forward. I’ve been tearing down an altar of isolation and self-sufficiency and this is a season where these old altars HAVE. TO. GO.

Happy listening!

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Sign up for my Overcoming Overwhelm workshop on Tuesday June 24! Join us live online from 11am-1pm or watch the replay. Register for the 2-hour online workshop here.

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. 

*Trigger Warning* In this episode, I talk about my past struggles with body image, disordered eating, and unhealthy weight control behaviors. Please take care of yourself while listening, and feel free to pause or skip this episode if it's not supportive for where you're at right now.

This episode is deeply personal. Over the past few weeks, I’ve been asked a lot about my eating habits and healthy lifestyle. And to be honest, it caught me off guard—and in mulling over it the past few days, I realized how free I’ve become. I used to obsess over every bite, every pound, every number. And now? I live in peace with food and my body. 

Today, I eat consciously—not restrictively. I listen to my body. I nourish it. I don’t punish it. And I think that kind of maturity and peace comes with time, grace, and a lot of honesty and intentional choosing of better choices. 

If you’re in a stuck place—whether with food, your body, or anything else—don’t despise the small steps. You might not notice the shift until you look back and realize you’re free.

This is the story of how I got here—from disordered eating to conscious, intuitive freedom.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

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Welcome back to another Window Into My Heart episode—a space where I open up about what God is doing in me, what I’m sensing in the spirit, and what I believe He might be stirring in you too. These episodes are meant to give you a behind-the-scenes look into my walk with God, with the hope that it encourages you in your own.

Lately, I’ve been sensing a shift. A season change. And I don’t just mean the natural signs of spring—we’re talking about something deeper, more spiritual. I keep coming back to this passage in Song of Songs 2, where it says:

"The season has changed,
the bondage of your barren winter has ended,
and the season of hiding is over and gone..."

It’s as if God is whispering, “Can you not perceive it?” There’s new life breaking forth all around us—spiritually, emotionally, and even practically. The signs of God’s purposes are beginning to bud and bloom. This is a time of awakening, of rising, of going to a higher place with Him.

But even in the midst of this beautiful shift, there’s a warning: “It’s the foxes.”

I had a dream recently about spiders—a picture that, for me, represents distractions. The Lord brought me back to Song of Songs 2:15, which talks about the little foxes that ruin the budding vineyard of love. These distractions might seem small, but they have the power to sabotage what God is trying to plant and grow in this new season.

I believe we’re in a prophetic moment—a divine invitation to move forward. But the enemy would love to keep us in the comfort of the past, in what was familiar, even if that season was barren or dry. He wants to tether us to what was, so we miss what is being birthed.

So here’s my encouragement: be aware of the distractions. Pay attention to the things trying to steal your focus, your time, your energy. This is the time for spring cleaning—in your heart, your rhythms, your relationships. What once served you may now be crowding the space God wants to fill with fresh vision and provision for the next season.

Let’s not miss the shift because we’re clinging to what was.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

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I’ve been asked this question twice this week: “What would you tell your 20-something self?” And I get why people ask. Those years are full of decisions, confusion, stretching, and becoming. Looking back, I can honestly say I’m proud of the life I’ve built—flawed, beautiful, and shaped deeply by grace. A lot of my growth came through my insecurities, fears, and missteps, but also through leaning into God’s presence and learning to trust His process over my own.

So here’s what I’d say if I could sit across from my younger self over coffee:

You’re exactly where you need to be.
You don’t need to be further along. Stop chasing your imagined timeline and be present in your season. Everything you’re walking through is shaping you in ways you can’t yet see.

Prioritize your secret place with God.
Make space for stillness. Get used to quiet. Learn to be anchored in His presence now, not just when you’re desperate. That connection will carry you through more than you realize.

Stop doing so much. Learn how to just be.
You’ve gotten really good at performing and producing. But being—resting, receiving, slowing down—that’s where real transformation happens. Don’t wait until burnout to learn it.

God will exceed your expectations.
You can’t plan your way into the life God has for you. It’s going to be more than you can imagine—stretching, surprising, and better than what you would’ve written for yourself.

Tell the truth.
Silence might feel safer, but it will eat away at you over time. Say the hard things. Be honest—with yourself and with others. That’s where healing begins.

Your dreams will come to life.
Not always in the timeline or form you expect, but they’ll unfold—bit by bit, often through pain and process. Stay open to how they show up.

Deal with the beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
“I’m not enough.” “I don’t have what it takes.” “I am what I do.” These are lies that sound like truth. Start confronting them now so they don’t dictate your decisions later.

Learn how to cook—and enjoy it.
It’s not just about food. It’s about slowing down, nourishing yourself, and learning rhythms that bring peace. You’ll thank yourself later.

Wear sunscreen.
You’re not invincible. You don’t need to prove anything to the sun. Take care of your skin—it’s not superficial; it’s stewardship.

Invest in your friendships.
Not the convenient ones, the real ones. These people will become your support system when life gets heavy. Nurture those relationships now. They’ll be a safe place when you need one most.

If I could sum it all up: You don’t need to have it all figured out. Just keep showing up, keep telling the truth, stay grounded in who God is, and trust that the story unfolding is far more meaningful than the one you’re trying to control.

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In this episode, we dive into the difference between purpose and significance, and how getting the equation wrong can keep us feeling stuck. I share my own journey of discovering my purpose and how I realized that, instead of focusing on doing more to get to where I wanted to go, I needed to first be who I was created to be. This episode is about learning how to align with your true purpose so you can move forward in your destiny with confidence.

 

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

• Purpose vs. Significance:
  
  • Purpose is the reason why something exists or is done—it's something that's inside of you, waiting to be discovered.
    
    
  • Significance refers to the importance or value of something—often, we confuse this with purpose, chasing success and external validation instead of realizing that purpose is already within us.
    
    
• The Backwards Equation:
  
  • When I first started pursuing my purpose, I was focused on doing everything to get to where I thought I should be. Social media, growing followers, chasing success—I thought it would lead me to the purpose God had for me.
    
    
  • The key realization: Instead of trying to “get there,” the focus should be on being who you really are. When you lean into your true self, you'll naturally get to where you're meant to go.
    
    
• Be Who You’re Made to Be:
  
  • It’s about doing what you’re made to do—whether it’s connecting with others, leaning into hard moments, experiencing joy, or simply being faithful in the season you’re in.
    
    
  • As you be who you are and do what you’re made to do, you'll become who you're called to be. It’s a process of growth and alignment.
    
    
• Purpose Is Inside You:
  
  • We often think purpose is something external, something we have to chase, but it's already inside us. God has placed it there for us to discover.
    
    
  • We spend so much time hustling for significance that we forget purpose isn’t something we need to perform for—it’s already part of who we are.

The takeaway? Your purpose is already inside of you. Stop chasing external markers of success and significance. Lean into who you were made to be, and the rest will follow.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. 

In today’s special bonus episode, I’m talking about something that so many of us wrestle with: why we stay stuck, even when we deeply want to grow. 

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the “right” things but still can’t seem to move forward, you’re not alone. In this episode, I unpack ten of the most common reasons we get stuck—and what it actually takes to start moving again. We’re talking about things like limiting beliefs, mental overload, nervous system patterns, and the subtle self-sabotage that keeps us circling the same mountains.

Here’s what might be holding you back: 

– You’re carrying old limiting beliefs like “I’m not good enough” or “This is just how I am.”

– You feel overwhelmed by mental overload, decision fatigue, or analysis paralysis.

– Your nervous system is wired for survival, keeping you in fight, flight, or freeze mode.

– You haven’t been taught how to recognize or meet your real emotional needs.

– There’s unprocessed pain from rejection, betrayal, or childhood wounds.

– You fear being seen, judged, or misunderstood, so you self-sabotage to stay safe.

– You’re still attached to patterns or relationships that feel familiar—even if they aren’t healthy.

– Shame or low self-worth whispers that you don’t deserve more.

– You’re stuck in comfort habits—scrolling, overconsuming, avoiding—because change feels too hard.

Lastly, inside this episode, I share a powerful framework for getting UNSTUCK:

UNCOVER – becoming aware of the deeper roots of your stuckness, like past pain, identity confusion, or survival patterns.

DISCOVER – learning the truth about who you are, how God sees you, and what’s actually possible when you show up differently.

BECOME – walking out healing and wholeness in real life, with confidence, intention, and purpose.

✨ The doors to Thrive are officially open today.

Thrive is my online membership community for women who are ready to stop surviving and start becoming. Use the code THRIVETODAY to get your first month completely free.

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